Start asking why

If we start asking “why”, we’ll go crazy.”

But maybe going crazy is the point. As humans we tend to avoid the crazy. Crazy brings chaos and destruction, but what’s the meaning of life without ruin.

Maybe a little chaos in our world is the key balancer. In life, there is nothing perfect, but most of us don’t ask why. Why is there always a darker night before a brighter day? Why does destruction in nature bring life? Why do we have to suffer through depression, go through our hills and valleys, only to find ourselves and come out better on the other side?

Is it all just a part of life - the good, the bad, and the ugly? If we had it our way, there would be no bad and ugly. But throughout time ugly shows itself, almost never in disguise. Whereas, the bad may come in a hidden form, but still ever present. There’s no escaping the reality of bad and ugly, although we can search for the meaning of both.

When you get right down to it, fear is at the crux of so many stuck moments. We’re afraid of being the bad guy. Of getting fired. Of being ridiculed. So instead of taking a chance, we passively limit our lives.

Let’s find the root of our collective insecurities, fears, and hatred. As much as it seems like a rare feat for self-absorbed beings, let’s dig deep into ourselves in order to find reasoning and meaning in our lives. Coming to terms with the bad, analyzing our faults.

Add some Chaos To Your Life

The story of the human race is the story of men and women selling themselves short” – Abraham Maslow. It is the sense of comfort that stunts growth. Abraham Maslow, a pioneer in modern humanistic psychology, created what he called a hierarchy of needs. This hierarchy of needs is a representation of the most basic motivators and innate curiosity of human beings.  It can also be interpreted for the reasoning behind why we stray away from chaos and fear.

One of the basic needs that Maslow points out is safety and belongingness. Without a sense of belonging and safety we are apt to depression and loneliness. At the top of Maslow’s hierarchy is self-actualization, something that is deeply entrenched within all of us. A self-actualized person is one who strives for excellence and is a representation of our healthiest selves. A self-actualized person tolerates uncertainty, they are highly creative, have strong moral standards, and they push themselves instead of taking the safe path.

“In time of destruction, create something” Maxine Kingston. Why are some of the most creative minds plagued with depression? To be creative is to make sense of and connect the small details of everything we experience, the good and the bad. The most creative minds didn’t just dwell on the good but dwell just as much, if not more, on the bad.

Depression doesn’t fuel creativity; it’s actually the other way around. Creativity is about thinking, whereas depression is a reflection of thought. The most creative minds aren’t afraid to ask why and often dwell on their fears. Using it to fuel their intrinsic motivation to create better as “every act of creation is first an act of destruction” as said by Pablo Picasso.

Something must first be destroyed before something new can be created.  Add a little chaos to your life – if you feel like life is becoming a bit too stagnant, try to mix things up every now an then. Get rid of old routines and try something new and have new experiences. The fact is that no one likes change and no one likes chaos. We may even fear it a bit. However, fear can be empowering, as its just energy. Rise above it.

What about hate? Due to the most recent election and atmosphere around the country, hate is everywhere. But why? Why do those on the right hate those on the left, and vice versa? It may be due to the fact of the echo chamber that we live in. We only see and hear with what we agree on.

You hit “like” on those Facebook posts with why you agree, and so its algorithm shows you more of similar links. You retweet 140-character thoughts and Twitter’s algorithm suggests you follow people with similar ideas.

We have to work on being aware of not falling into the trap of ‘comfort zones’. When you read an article online (maybe it’s this one) two things usually happen, you have an impulse to stop reading because it goes against everything that you agree with…or you agree with everything and stop reading due to that fact itself. Try to be more mindful. If you hate the premise of an article try to search for something in it that may give you insight. Don’t hate for the act of hating, but try to have the mindset of looking at it the other way…what’s the reasoning and purpose of the article? Be insightful, dissect it, and grow from it.

When we’re not exposed to opposing views it prevents the environment for understanding from being created. We don’t build up the empathy to have an understanding. The consequence of the lack of interaction affects our growth as a society; or lack thereof.

You may not think that your comfort zone could destroy the world, but your comfort zone is a place where you accept the things you cannot change. To make a better place, it’s time for all of us to change the things we cannot accept”.

By definition, stepping outside of your comfort zone IS uncomfortable. Although, with discomfort comes growth. Now has never been a better time to take the step out of our comfort zones in this transition phase and era of uncertainty. Our echo chambers don’t challenge our views and/or expand our minds. No longer is there debate, only opinions disguised as facts.

There is no growth without discomfort – we can’t collectively change our world by being comfortable. Never has it been more critical to go a little crazy, get a bit curious, and challenge yourself to ask why. Get a little uncomfortable, read that Fox News article; but don’t get angry. Engage yourself in it, and think. That’s how you grow, that’s how we grow. It’s the practice of empathy and understanding. Get rid of your ego and personal bias’.

We are humans and thus have our differences. It’s the recognition and embracing of these differences that makes a great society or nation. Let it be a reason for celebration and growth, rather than a reason for destruction.

If we don’t face our fears and understand our hate, we won’t be able to realize our full potential. Stand for what you believe and never question yourself. When fear arises let’s try not to dodge its presence. Instead, ask why we feel the emotion; as such that’s only what it is. By asking why, we can move forward in moments of uncertainty. Overcome fear and hate by attacking it.

Let’s start asking why. A search that may bring pain, but unlike the temporary nature of pain, the answer of why is eternal. It’s the yin and yang of life.